Take Note: A father's Guide to Postnatal Depression

Post Natal Depression is a term that we've all heard of, but do you really know exactly what it means?
After welcoming a new baby, it is very common for new mums to become anxious, tearful and down. This phase is known as the "baby blues" and is completely normal. This phase does not usually last longer than around two weeks. If mum is still showing these signs than this may be a sign of Post Natal Depression. It is also important to understand that PND can begin anytime up to one year after giving birth.
For a PND suffer, it can be difficult to ask for help, say how you feel or talk about what you need. The Take Note Plan is a "write it down" strategy that allows mum to express her needs and feelings, when she maybe finding it difficult to say it out loud. This is a no fuss, straight to the point self help strategy, designed to give dads direct instruction on how to help, hopefully tacking the feeling of uselessness and confusion. (Download for Free Here)
Other ways that Dads can help mums that maybe suffering with Post Natal Depression.
Understand Postnatal Depression
Take the time to research and find out how PND affects your partner both emotionally and physically. It is vital that you understand that PND is a not controllable, it is an illness that needs to help and support in order to make a full recovery. The more information you have, the more you will be able to help and understand what your partner is feeling.
Remember That This is Just Temporary.
Post Natal Depression is not a permanent illness. With the right support many women make a full recovery. It is important to remember this, and to just take each day as it comes.
Talk and Listen
When someone has PND it can be difficult to express how you feel. Inside you maybe longing for someone to talk to, hold onto and ask for help, but getting the words out can be difficult. So many mums are left battling alone. The Take Note Strategy is designed to provide a straight to the point "write it down" method to help both Mum and Dad understand feelings and areas of help. (Click here to download)
Decide On Set Jobs and Encourage Mum To Take On Small Tasks.
Decide between you what roles you can take on around the house to help. It's important not to do everything, this can be undermining, and take away the feeling of ability and power. It is important to encourage mum to do things when she's feeling up to it and praise her for doing so. It takes a lot off effort to start a finish a task on a bad day, by showing her that you understand this, it will really help mum feel supported and understood.
Take Time Out for Yourself.
Looking after yourself it's so important. It is vital that you have a healthy mind and body. Take time out to social with your friends and have time outside of the home. This will help you stay focused and positive. It is important to remember that 1 in 25 new fathers also develop PND, information and helplines can be found on page 2 of take note booklet.

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